Casey and Reese discuss gender neutral bathrooms
Guide: Welcome, everyone!
Our topic is gender-neutral bathrooms. We'll be discussing this statement: All public restrooms should be gender neutral, meaning that they are open to all people regardless of sex or gender identity
• Casey agrees with the statement
• Reese disagrees with the statement.
My name is Guide, and I'm here to support your discussion. If you need anything, start your message with “Hey Guide”
Reese: Hi Casey
Reese: Hey guide, how to start?
Guide: To get started, I'd suggest:
• Introduce yourself briefly to Casey
• Share your initial thoughts on the topic
• Explain why you disagree with the statement
Remember, the goal is to have a thoughtful discussion, so try to be specific about your reasoning.
Reese, could you tell us why you disagree with making all public restrooms gender-neutral?
Once you've shared your perspective, Casey can respond with her thoughts.
Reese: I disagree because of the safety of women. I honestly think that this matter it’s a privilege type of social conflict that's only that relevant in certain places. but copying and having all gender bathrooms across the cities and states, for poor neighborhoods will be a different story. and rapes and crime against women will just triple. For me, the solution to this is just adding one more bathroom with neutral gender, without displacing the female bathroom.
Casey: Thank you for sharing your perspective however I haven’t seen any research or data that states that having gender, neutral bathrooms with lead to more rape crimes against women. most neutral bathrooms are one bathroom where you can lock it and it has both a and a sink.
Guide: Thank you both for sharing your initial thoughts. Let's dig a bit deeper into this discussion.
Casey, you mentioned not seeing research supporting increased crime rates in gender-neutral bathrooms. Could you elaborate on why you believe gender-neutral bathrooms are a good idea, and how you think they might address concerns about safety?
Reese, while we wait for Casey's response, consider the points she raised. We'll come back to your perspective soon.
Reese: Hey Casey, if it's better to set a time to sit down and get this done, let me know. I will be struggling with bedtime because of finals and wanna make sure none of us is upset because big gaps in time
Casey: Well, if we were talking about potential concerns of safety, I think it’s important to consider that transgender a non-binary individuals face a greater risk of harassment and sexual assault in gendered bathrooms. Single stall restrooms can be labeled accordingly without an additional cost, allowing for privacy and safety without the worry of low income in marginalized communities, not having access.
Casey: Yeah sure what works best for you. I’m pretty much available.
Guide: Reese, Casey has raised some interesting points about safety for transgender and non-binary individuals, as well as the idea of single-stall restrooms. What are your thoughts on these aspects? Do you see any potential middle ground or areas where you might agree?
Remember, the goal is to understand each other's perspectives better, even if you don't ultimately agree. Try to address the specific points Casey made in your response.
Reese: Yes, you are right about that. the increased risk of harassment and sexual assault faced by transgender and non-binary individuals is well-documented and sad! I think single-stall restrooms as a safe and inclusive option recognizes these risks. I think labeling existing single-stall restrooms as gender-neutral or all gender is only cost effective and effortless but it's an immediate step towards inclusivity for sure. For me it's more about having an extra bathroom for all genders, and not delete the female bathroom because it's important to respect diverse preferences for all. I personally don't feel safe if I go to the bathroom and I see a man like inside in a room. I am okay with non-binary people but to be honest if they look more masculine I feel scared.
Reese: also because lady's bathrooms generally are more clean. I think it is a smoother transition that takes everybody in consideration.
Casey: I’m not saying that they necessarily have to be gender neutral bathrooms in which it’s public, like with male and females in the same bathroom, but you can have the general neutral bathrooms, where they’re single bathrooms labeled with gender neutral signs. They’re more common at universities and institutions, but it is a thing like we have gender neutral bathrooms, here at [REDACTED] where it’s just like one single bathroom, not necessarily stalls, not necessarily communal sinks, any of that sort of thing.
Casey: I think all bathroom should be labeled gender neutral not separated as male and female
Reese: Hey guide, what else?
Guide: Thanks for your responses, Reese and Casey. You've both raised important points about safety, comfort, and inclusivity.
Casey, you suggest all bathrooms should be labeled gender neutral. How would you address Reese's concerns about safety and comfort, especially for women who might feel uncomfortable sharing spaces with people who appear masculine?
Reese, we'll come back to you after Casey responds. Consider how her perspective on single-occupancy gender-neutral bathrooms might relate to your concerns.
Casey: For me, I see that applying to, even if a transgender woman who appears more masculine comes into a bathroom labeled woman because they are now transition to a woman woman might still say that they have concerns about safety and comfort, but at the same time we need to start implementing policies that would address the concerns around Gender inclusion to those who are transgender non-binary and gender non-conforming
Casey: Which is why I think it’s a good idea to have gender, neutral bathrooms because it could be fully encompassing bathrooms from head to toe with just shared spaces of sinks
Casey: Because we also need to eliminate the risks of discomfort and unwelcomeness and safety and concern when it comes to individuals who are transgender gender, non-conforming a non-binary and gender, neutral bathrooms are the best way because at the same time when we have gender specific bathrooms individual still raise concerns about Others using restrooms. They feel like it based off of how they may present which leads to harassment and discrimination.
Casey: I hope they address those concerns. How do you feel Reese?
Reese: Yeah that makes a lot of sense. I agree with you
Guide: Reese, since you've agreed with Casey's points, could you explain which aspects of her argument you found most convincing? How has this discussion influenced your initial view on gender-neutral bathrooms?
Reese: Sure, I think it's part of the inclusivity and overall well-being of non-binary people as well. I think this discussion has definitely shifted my perspective. Initially gender-neutral bathrooms could be harmful for women but I can see now how they could create a more inclusive and welcoming environment. Of course, I’m still concerned about women, but I think neutral gender bathrooms might not be a cause for women to get hurt even more
Reese: Hey guide, what else?
Guide: That's a great reflection, Reese. It's wonderful to see how this discussion has broadened your perspective. Casey, given Reese's shift in understanding, do you see any potential compromises or gradual implementation strategies that could address both inclusivity and lingering safety concerns?
Let's explore how we might bridge the remaining gap between your viewpoints.
Casey: The compromise to address potential concerns of safety once again remains that these bathrooms would be separate amongst each other with private sinks and toilet/urinals to address concerns of safety.
Casey: My question for you, Reese, is how can you bring in your perspective to not only think about the concerns of women but also the concerns of men, gender, non-conforming individuals non-binary and transgender individuals. I only pose this question because you keep bringing up the concern of safety for women if bathrooms were gender, neutral however what about the concerns for those who are one of these representing identities and have to go into a bathroom that is labeled female or male and gender specific that still pose discrimination and safety issues for them because people can be like oh I don’t feel like you should be in this bathroom and it has shown with numerous routes to research that often times especially transgender individuals are targeted in restrooms so if they’re not allowed to be in gender specific restrooms, how do we address them being included.
Casey: I also think it depends on the frame of the gender neutral restrooms. There are different architectures. There are gender neutral restrooms that have one restroom, floor-to-ceiling stalls with communal sinks, and then there are gender neutral, restrooms that are private restrooms that aren’t stalls.
Guide: Reese, Casey has asked an important question about broadening perspectives to include safety concerns for various gender identities. How might you address these concerns while still maintaining safety for women? Can you think of any solutions that could work for everyone?
Remember, the goal is to understand each other's viewpoints and explore potential solutions together.
Reese: You're right about the concerns of men and everybody else. it's women tho who still suffering from rapes, along discrimination. So, I think the solution lies in framing and designing gender-neutral bathrooms, like every new construction must build a third bathroom and current places can consider using a male bathroom and rename it non-binary. As you mentioned, there are architectural options such as floor-to-ceiling stalls with communal sinks or entirely private restrooms. I like the private restrooms better though.
Reese: Women often express fears about harassment or violence, while trans and non-binary people face discrimination... a third bathroom can be the best option, but to be honest, I would not like to see men in the female bathroom. Hey guide, what else?
Guide: Thank you for your thoughtful response, Reese. You've considered multiple perspectives and proposed some potential solutions. Casey, what do you think about Reese's suggestion of adding a third bathroom option or repurposing existing ones? Do you see this as a viable compromise, or do you have concerns about this approach? Consider how this might address or fall short of addressing the inclusivity and safety concerns you've raised earlier.
Casey: I am not opposed to her suggestion of adding a third bathroom option, but I don’t agree with the repurposing men’s restroom and turning it into non-binary and then just having a female gender-specific bathroom and then a gender-neutral bathroom because I feel like that defeats the purpose as well If you’re gonna make a gender neutral bathroom it should be inclusive to everyone and it shouldn’t be that we have gender specific bathroom of female, not male, but then gender neutral.
Casey: I get it that you’re concerned about the safety of women but also at the same time like I said, thinking about the broad perspective of all identities, but also just saying we’re gonna completely take away the option for men to have a gender specific bathroom, allowing a woman gender specific bathroom also seems discriminatory, I think the best solution here is to have gender, neutral bathrooms that are private
Casey: The concern about not seeing a man in a female restroom doesn’t eliminate the fact that a transgender woman who’s male-presenting can still be considered something that would make people uncomfortable
Reese: I agree and you are right, by gender neutral bathroom you mean on single toilet and sink? like only one person at a time?
Guide: It's great to see you both engaging with each other's ideas and finding common ground. Casey, could you clarify what you mean by "private" gender-neutral bathrooms? Are you referring to single-occupancy restrooms, or something else?
Reese, while we wait for Casey's response, consider how this approach might address your earlier concerns about safety and comfort.
Casey: Yes, it would be a single toilet sink single occupancy bathroom
Reese: I like that idea! Hey guide, what else?
Guide: Great! It seems you've found some common ground on the idea of single-occupancy, gender-neutral bathrooms. Reese, since you like this idea, could you explain how you think it addresses the concerns you raised earlier about safety and comfort for women? Are there any potential challenges you see with implementing this solution?
Reese: With this option, I believe women and non-binary individuals will feel safe, as they won't have to share the bathroom with anyone else at the same time. I think it's the best solution to include all genders. My only concern would be the cost of building these bathrooms or adaptation of the existing buildings and infrastructure as they currently are.
Reese: Hey guide, what else?
Guide: Thank you, Reese. You've identified both benefits and potential challenges with this solution. Casey, Reese raised a concern about the cost of implementing single-occupancy gender-neutral bathrooms. How would you address this issue? Are there any cost-effective ways you can think of to make this transition, or do you see other potential challenges with this approach?
Casey: For new buildings, the most cost-effective solution is to start building gender neutral bathrooms from the start to eliminate having to retrofit the bathroom later. Many public buildings already have single stall restrooms so my proposal would be to change the signage from female/male, boy/girl, man/woman, to gender neutral
Casey: Also, if local governments and states can give funding to organizations that are looking to re-trough for their restrooms to become gender neutral that would help to alleviate some costs
Guide: Thank you, Casey. You've provided some practical suggestions for implementation.
Reese, what are your thoughts on Casey's ideas, particularly changing signage on existing single-stall restrooms and seeking government funding for retrofitting? Do you see these as viable solutions to the cost concern you raised?
Reese: Sure, yeah I think this is a highly cost-effective solution. changing signage compared to retrofitting or constructing new restrooms! It also will help to normalize gender-neutral facilities. I think the financial assistance, government grant and subsidies will definitely make the biggest positive change. While the solution might require upfront public funding, the long term societal benefits offset the investment
Reese: Hey guide, what else?
Guide: Great observations, Reese! Casey, given that you and Reese seem to agree on the benefits of single-occupancy gender-neutral bathrooms and some strategies for implementation, what do you think would be the most important next steps to make this a reality in communities? Are there any potential obstacles or resistance you foresee?
Casey: I think the first step to actually making this a reality would be that we actually would have to get a bill passed with states that made it a requirement to have gender neutral bathrooms because many people would probably oppose the changing of bathrooms.
Casey: A lot of people still coincide with traditional social norms, which is understandable, however can be a barrier for us if we are trying to implement this.
But of course to address the concerns that people may have we can host town halls in different meetings to inform people and bring awareness about what gender new bathrooms are and how they provide safety and comfort for all identities. We can also work with other organizations who work around promoting gender equality, and would be open to being a pilot program for the implementation of gender, neutral bathroom, so people can see how it works
Casey: What do you think Reese?
Reese: Hey guide, what else?
Guide: Thank you, Casey, for outlining those steps and potential challenges. Reese, Casey has suggested legislative action, community engagement, and pilot programs as ways to implement gender-neutral bathrooms. Which of these approaches do you think would be most effective in your community? Are there any additional strategies you'd propose to address potential resistance?
Consider how these ideas might be received in your local area and what might help people become more comfortable with the concept.
Reese: I think community engagement, like hosting town halls and informational meetings, would be the most effective approach in my community. Providing clear information about gender, types of gender neutral bathrooms will create safety for everyone. Additionally, showcasing successful pilot programs of what are the benefits of these spaces. Seeing real-world examples often helps reduce resistance. Partnerships with local schools, business and advocacy groups to champion the initiative.
Reese: Hey guide, what else?
Guide: Great ideas, Reese! You've highlighted the importance of education and real-world examples.
Casey, how do you think we could measure the success of these initiatives? What specific outcomes would indicate that gender-neutral bathrooms are having a positive impact in a community?
Casey: I think that to measure the success of these initiatives, we would need to conduct a community survey, especially for those who benefit directly (transgender, nonbinary, and gender non-conforming). We could also track reports of harassment and other safety incidents as a decline in these events to see if there is a positive impact.
Casey: Hey Reese, can we wait to ask Guide? I think it would be beneficial to have an ongoing conversation
Reese: I don't think so, I actually think that if we reply to what Guide asks we get done faster.
Reese: Hey guide, what else?
Guide: I appreciate your input, Reese, but it's important to engage in a meaningful dialogue rather than rushing through. Casey's suggestion for an ongoing conversation has merit. Casey, you've proposed some concrete ways to measure success. Could you expand on how we might implement these surveys and incident tracking systems while respecting privacy?
Reese, while we wait for Casey's response, consider how these measurement methods might address your initial concerns about safety and comfort.
Reese: OK, on going conversation! Got it then
Reese: You’re right – these are solid ways to measure success! to implement them effectively while respecting privacy, we could do anonymous surveys. for tracking we might use a confidential reporting system, ensuring individuals feel safe sharing their experiences without fear of exposure
Casey: I agree I was thinking the same thing. We can also have anonymous portals for submission of reports of harassment or safety concerns.
Reese: Great! I guess that’s it?
Guide: To wrap up, could each of you share one key insight you've gained from this discussion about gender-neutral bathrooms?
Reese: Yes! I gained more social awareness and more empathy towards non-binary people and their struggles. Gender neutral bathrooms are a great solution to make more people to feel safe and included
Reese: Casey now it's your turn to wrap up
Casey: I learned more about how some individuals opinions around general neutral bathrooms may not even be about gender, but safety concerns, and I really appreciated that insight because I wasn’t really thinking about that before because I was in support of the policy
Casey: I really enjoyed this discussion and thank you so much for your perspective, Reese
Reese: Thank you too, Casey
Guide: Thank you both for your insightful reflections and respectful dialogue. You've demonstrated great empathy and openness to learning from each other. Your discussion has highlighted the importance of considering multiple perspectives when addressing complex social issues like gender-neutral bathrooms.
This conversation has touched on safety, inclusivity, practical implementation, and the value of community engagement. You've shown how thoughtful discussion can lead to finding common ground and potential solutions.
Reese: Enjoy the holidays!
Casey: You too!